Blindly Believing Anyone is Wrong.
Do I think women are often the victims of crimes against them? Yes - and do I believe that most women tell the truth when they talk about abuses against them - also yes. However not all women tell the truth and not everyone takes their abusers to court or to the court of public opinion for multiple reasons. Domestic abuse is a much reported crime and 6 in 100 women in England have reported being abused in their lifetime, but around 3 in 100 men report being domestically abused. While the female figure is double the amount of men, what is shown is a harrowing tale that men are around half as likely to be abused as women.
Ask any girl and they will tell you tales of sexual assault that has happened to them, will tell of men not respecting their boundaries and crossing the line from playful flirting to harmful behaviour, but I have a few stories to add in here. All are from my own experiences over the years and is why I am now very cynical of anyone who takes to the media or social media rather than the courts to tell their story about abuse.
Abuse for most women is difficult to talk about and as someone who was sexually abused as a child by a friend’s cousin and older brother, again as a teen by a family member and was raped by my big cousin’s partner’s friend, I can tell you I don’t talk often about these abuses. The reason for this are multiple, but my cousin used my rape as gossip and one of my mum’s sisters found out and came to my house when I was 19 to confront me about it, asking why I hadn’t told my mother which almost destroyed my relationship with her and has made me wary of her ever since.
Another example of why I no longer believe every female is that my one time friend told me multiple times her partner at the time was raping her, getting her pregnant and she was constantly miscarrying his babies. All of that was a lie. The person in question, who is now a very dear friend of mine, hadn’t even been staying in the same house as her when these things were allegedly happening and she was lying about it all for attention and sympathy.
Many men are abused and men often find it much more difficult to speak up than females, detailing feeling ashamed, embarrassed or worrying about people not understanding them. Men and women suffering abuse often act withdrawn, anxious and depressed. Further they also act scared and confused.They are often isolated from friends and family and barriers are put up to stop victims reaching out. It’s a means of control and victims become dependent on their abusers. Victims can become lonely and lose opportunities such as for work or to see family members.
Liam Payne, a member of the boyband One Direction and successful solo artist in his own right, has been accused of being abusive to a former girlfriend, however I believe that he was actually the victim of abuse and not the abuser.
His ex took to social media in the form of TikToks to blast the star and claimed he was abusive to her in her fictional book Moving Forward. In the story the main character Mallory struggles to cope with her partner Oliver’s drinking and drug use and while Maya Henry, the author, had at first claimed she was encouraged by Liam to write the book as a sort of fanfiction of their lives, she later claimed that she was lying when she said it wasn’t based on Liam and was in fact true to real life events.
Maya has also claimed that her abuse is ‘tea,’ almost gleefully sharing details of Liam’s alleged wrongdoing, and this was months after the initial release of her story. She claimed that she couldn’t have made the story up, that her imagination wasn’t that good - yet she was studying creative writing at NYU. The conflicting statements about her close relationship with Liam, how she claimed to be on good terms with him and that he would reach out to check on her, is very much at odds with her later claims that he was harassing her and attempting to manipulate her into taking the book down.
Maya claimed that if Liam harmed himself that she would be blamed - yet isn’t that a manipulation tactic all on its own? She dragged his name through the mud, spoke almost casually about her abuse and was looking off camera, smirking and almost always being forceful in her need to convince people of what she was saying. In one of the videos I saw she clapped her hands which is actually a tactic used to intimidate people and that’s exactly how it came across to me, as though she was furious that people dared to question her and would call them delusional or conspiracy theorists for not immediately believing she was telling the truth about her claimed abuse.
She provided no evidence and although her father is a high powered attorney she did not take Liam to court or go to the police with the evidence she claimed to have. In fact the way she dragged his name through the mud was defamatory and came about at the time her own lawyer father’s company was embroiled in a trial for sexual assault. It was alleged that someone in Thomas J. Henry’s employ drugged and assaulted a victim, but the case has since been settled out of court.
Further to this, Maya’s grandmother has taken to Instagram to almost threaten Liam in posts about her book, additionally her grandfather is in prison for murder. Maya’s family is allegedly connected to the mob in the USA and is not a family I’d like to be on the wrong side of, however the facts are that Maya is more likely to have abused Liam, than Liam is to have abused Maya.
Lastly, Maya’s father has worked with both Sony and Syco music in the past and as a result Thomas Henry has connections with the music label that has had and still has control over Liam’s public image. If they wanted a character assassination, then who better to provide it than a lawyer's daughter who actually doesn’t need the money, but wants revenge for Liam escaping her clutches?
To my mind, people aren’t always good; some people abuse you and it often comes from places you don’t expect. If you want justice for a crime against you, then you go to court and present evidence to a courtroom. Maya would have signed multiple NDA agreements as a result of being Liam’s public girlfriend, so why weren’t these adhered to and why wasn’t this matter handled in the right manner instead of her dragging him through the mud when he was at his most vulnerable? Why did she claim to be helping victims, yet she didn’t advocate for them once? If you have power and use it to destroy and abuse someone online then you are as guilty of assault as any perpetrator.
Being a victim of assault gives you a voice, but if you chose to destroy someone without a shred of evidence, integrity or decency, then I will always question your motives. Amber Heard taught us that not all women are victims and not all men are perpetrators. Liam was alone, was isolated from his family and friends, had unexplained marks on his neck and face and was with a friend of the Henry family at the end of his life. Tell me who the real victim was - because to me it seems like it was Liam and not Maya at all.
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https://www.mysanantonio.com/news/local/article/thomas-j-henry-lawsuit-sanctions-19604457.php
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